NCCA Blog Regarding Continuing Education

June 30, 2020

During this time of concern and uncertainty, Continuing Education is still on our list of priorities. The required 50 hours of CE needed for maintenance of certification looms ahead of us. Below are some suggestions the North Carolina Chaplains’ Association has gathered to help you accomplish this requirement for 2020. We are also exploring virtual ways of meeting for education and connection.

BCCI (professional chaplains.org)

Note that the BCCI has provided 5 webinars for free until July 15, 2020 at their website, professional chaplains.org (click “5 webinars” to access).

  1. The Effects of Trauma Exposure on Chaplains Presented by Alexandra Zareth, MDiv, BCC
  2. Caring for the Caregiver: Reducing the Stress of Vicarious Trauma Presented by Nancy Lynch, MDiv, MBA, BCC; Dena L. Mitchell, BSN, RN, CPON; and Shari Racut, MA, ATR-BC, LPCC
  3. Beyond the Traumatic Experience Presented by Rev. Steven Spidell, BCC, CCTP
  4. The Value of Existential Pain: An Opportunity to Focus on What is Really Important Presented by Fred Grewe, DMin, BCC
  5. Self-Care is Essential: Refueling Your Energy for Ministry Presented by Roberta Sonsaray White, MDiv

The BCCI has provided a list of resources at professional chaplains.org.  Log in is required for these resources. 

 
APC Facebook Discussion Page

APC COVID-19 Round-table Zoom calls (see individual sessions for details)

A Quick Guide to Providing Telechaplaincy Services

Chaplains in the Midst of the COVID-19 Crisis
by The Rev. Paul Yoon, BCC 

Healing the Healers Special Edition – Hospital Chaplains on Spiritual Frontlines during COVID-19

https://www.covid-spiritualcare.com/ (website is in German, google translate compatible)

ERICH News – April 2020

UC San Diego Health – COVID-19 Resource for Healthcare Workers
– Note: We are happy for anyone/any institution to use and make it their own.  The institution logo and pager number can be swapped out of the “heading” to customize.  Thank you all for the amazing work you are doing in your corners.  
   Allison Kestenbaum, MA, MPA, BCC, ACPE Certified Educator
   Supervisor of CPE Program & Palliative Care Chaplain 

NPR Interview with Chaplain Mike Yonkers BCC

Notes on the ethical framework for a pandemic – PDF


Proposed Emergency/ICU Triage Protocol based on Jewish Values

COVID-19 Language/Word Choice Guide

Chaplaincy Innovation Lab:
– CIL – Webinar recording on Telechaplaincy
– CIL – Resources for encountering coronavirus

Transforming Chaplaincy

Article from The Times of Israel – “While working remotely, chaplains aim to give COVID-19 patients rare human touch”

You Can’t Pour From an Empty Cup: Why Clinicians’? Spiritual Health Matters in the Time of COVID-19 by Elizabeth J. Berger MS APBCC


Chaplains & COVID in the Media:

NPR Interview with Chaplain Mike Yonkers BCC

NYT – Men and Women Who Run Toward the Dying

Self Care Resources: 

Decompress Podcast by Tony Black

Speciality Resources:

HHS COVID-19 HIPPA Limited Waiver Bulletin

National Coalition for Hospice and Palliative Care


FEMA Emergency Managment Institute – Self Instruction courses

Ventilator – Emergency Expansion Device from Prisma Health – VESper
https://www.foxcarolina.com/news/prisma-health-says-new-innovative-ventilator-adapter-their-doctor-created/article_03447df0-6edb-11ea-9dc1-5f473df8214a.html


Healthcare Resources:

COVID-19 Global Cases from CSSE at Johns Hopikins University

CDC – Stress and Coping

COVID-19 Data Center – Johns Hopkins University

The Institute for Health Metrics and Evaluation (IHME) COVID-19 Projections

https://www.heart.org/en/about-us/coronavirus-covid-19-resources

https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/index.html

https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/prepare/cleaning-disinfection.html

https://www.osha.gov/SLTC/covid-19/

The BCCI is offering us the opportunity to write about our pandemic experiences for credit hours of CE:

For 2020 you may earn 15 hours of continuing education by submitting a brief 1-3 page reflection on your experience of the COVID-19 pandemic. Some suggestions to get you started:

·         What have you learned through this pandemic?

·         How have you processed the anxiety and stress?

·         How have you cared for yourself?

·         Summarize your journal. 

·         Share your creative writing.

·         Memorialize those we have lost.

·         Share lessons for the future.

 
Your reflections will not be “graded” or looked at to make sure they are done the “right” way. We have all learned way more than can be accounted for during this time, whether you served on the front lines of a hospital in a major city, or if you were furloughed from your position at a rehab facility, and we want to give you the opportunity to get credit for that education through these reflections.

 
If you would like to have your reflection shared, send as a pdf file to education@professionalchaplains.org. A limited number will be selected to be added to our resource page as a way for us as a community to capture this moment and what it meant to our profession.
 
When you fill out your report at the end of the year, you will log 15 hours of CE under methodology 2 (Writing) and include your written reflection at the end/bottom of your CE report. That’s it.  No other requirements.  Just capture your thoughts and share with us.

The Journal of Healthcare Chaplaincy

The Journal of Healthcare Chaplaincy offers these articles which may be accessed by the link in the document attached:

Adults with cystic fibrosis: spiritual coping with lifelong disease
Daniel H. Grossoehme, Adam G. Cole, Katrina Lewis, Sophia M. Stamper, Alexis Teeters & Patricia M. Joseph
Pages: 45-57 | DOI: 10.1080/08854726.2020.1713647 

National Consensus Project’s Clinical Practice Guidelines for Quality Palliative Care, Fourth Edition: Why is This Important to Chaplains?
George F. Handzo, Mary-Margaret Atkinson & Susan K. Wintz
Pages: 58-71 | DOI: 10.1080/08854726.2019.1582212

Prevalence of Journal Clubs: A Survey of Clinical Pastoral Education Residencies in the United States
David Fleenor, Karen Terry, Vanshdeep Sharma & Deborah Marin
Pages: 72-86 | DOI: 10.1080/08854726.2019.1582210

The Chaplaincy Innovation Lab

The Chaplaincy Innovation Lab, with the generous work of Dr. Shelly Rambo and Ylisse Cheney Bess, has compiled Spiritual Care Resources for Religious Holidays with ideas for celebrating the holy days of Easter, Passover and Ramadan even when coming together in person isn’t possible.

Also, The Chaplaincy Innovation Lab has wealth of free webinars and an archive of chaplaincy articles available on their web site:  chaplaincyinnovation.org.

We at NCCA hope this gathering of information makes your Continuing Education for 2020 a little easier.  Please practice self-care and be safe until we meet again, maybe online for the fall meeting.

~ Ellen Abercrombie, NCCA Communications Committee

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Letter to North Carolina Chaplains from NCCA President

NCCA President Greg McClain

Letter to North Carolina Chaplains

April 1, 2020

Dear Chaplains,

Our Executive Committee of the North Carolina Chaplains Association met by conference call on March 27th to discuss how to proceed with the 2020 Spring Education event in regards to the novel Corona virus, COVID- 19.

We decided to cancel the webinar we hoped to host:

Medical experts are saying that we are still in the upswing in the bell curve of people contracting and spreading the virus.

We wonder if chaplains would be able to receive the information provided by our speaker if we are focused on the effects of COVID-19 and collateral impacts.

We are concerned that we do not have the IT support to manage connection issues from the receivers’ ends.

We will give full refunds to everyone. We are also willing to move registration monies to another event should reimbursement not work for the individual or institution.  We are holding onto the books included in registration and will distribute them to persons who enroll for the Spring Education Day next year.

We are working to schedule our Spring Education Day in 2021

We are working with our speaker, Dana Trent, and several conference centers. Our new date and location will be shared as soon as it is available.

New ways to stay connected

We discussed the need to support each other during these times of dislocation, disruption, and high stress. NCCA will send e-mails to provide some humor and compassion to us.

I am thankful to have Wanda, our Executive Committee, and our NCCA officers serving at this time. They are a blessing. Please keep us and each other in your prayers.

Blessings,

Greg McClain, President of the NCCA

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Spring Education Day becomes a Video-Conference Event

A letter from The Executive Committee

Dear North Carolina Chaplains Association Members,

Our Executive Committee met earlier today (March 13, 2020) to discuss creative ways we can continue to support our organization and continue to provide educational programming. We value your input and want to make sure each of you are safe and meeting the ever-changing regulations being set by our hiring institutions. Spiritual care is so important during this anxious and chaotic time. We value the phenomenal work each of you do and we want to continue to honor that by offering an alternative option for our spring educational event.

As of today (March 13, 2020), the NCCA Executive Committee decided to continue with our spring educational event as a videoconference opportunity. If you have already registered for the event, we will be in contact with you shortly to go through the process of refunding your registration. We do have a few more options as we move forward with this alternative way of education and engagement.

Dana Trent assured us of her ability to present this material via video-conferencing. She recently did this presentation to a large group virtually and heard a great deal of positive feedback about the educational experience and content provided. We will still have the educational event on April 30, 2020. Dana will present 3 ninety-minute sessions followed by an opportunity for questions/answers/reflections.

If you have already registered

  • You have the option of having a partial refund and still participating in the educational event via video-conferencing.
  • If you wish to not participate at all, you have the option of having a full refund.

If you have not registered

  • We invite you to register with the new pricing guidelines.

The price for the event is now $25 per member/student (the non-member rate is $35 per person); this price includes the cost of the book. We will have multiple sites throughout the state for you to come by during weekday hours to pick-up your book(s). If you wish to have your book mailed, it will be an additional $10 on the registration fee due to the cost of shipping at this time.

We are certainly disappointed that we are unable to meet in person. We are grateful for the creativity of the team and expertise of Dana to have the option of providing this education virtually. We plan to also have a recording of the event for those who want to attend, but cannot join virtually.

Please let us know if you have any questions and/or concerns and we hope to virtually see your faces on April 30th!

With Peace & Warm Regards, The Executive Committee

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Spring Education Day 2020

“Crossing the Threshold:  Equipping Professional Chaplains in End-of-Life Care”

Facilitated by J. Dana Trent

J. Dana Trent

The NCCA will gather for a Spring Education Day on April 30, 2020 at Dogwood on Lake Norman, located at 7062 Camp Dogwood Drive in Sherrills Ford, North Carolina.  We will enjoy three sessions with Dana, resulting in 4.5 hours of Continuing Education.  This event is a one-day event (our longer event in 2020 will be in the Fall).  There will be opportunities for participants to gather the evening prior to our education day to participate in peer review committees (you will need to form the groups, but we are happy to get you started), work on certification materials with peers (again, we are just helping you find each other), NCCA Exchange offerings, or fellowship/ relax on beautiful Lake Norman.

Centered on her recently released book, Dana Trent, will be offering a special time of reflecting on how those in the professional practice of spiritual care provide meaning to the journey toward end of life to patients and families in their practice.  But more importantly, we will look at how we also provide meaning and care to our own soul in the process.  All registered attendees will receive a copy of Dana’s book, Dessert First.

Schedule

Wednesday, April 29th

2:00pm      Executive Board Meeting

4:00pm      Lodging Check-In Begins

6:00pm      Dinner at Dogwood for Overnight Guests

7:00pm      Evening Activities:  BCC Peer Review Groups (self-directed)

                  The Exchange—“Chaplain-Sourcing”

Have a really great resource to share?  Done an event that was truly meaningful?  Come bring your notes, photos, and ideas to display so other chaplains can benefit from your experience.  *Be sure to bring multiple copies of your information for folks to take back with them!

8:00pm      Registration and Dessert Social (all attendees welcome)

Thursday, April 30th

8:00am      Breakfast at Dogwood for Overnight Guests

8:30am      Registration

9:00am      Welcome and Introduction of the Speaker

9:15am      Session A:  “Sabbath for the Chaplain: Refilling the Well in Order to Hold Space”

10:30am    Break

10:45am    Session B: “Dessert First: Practices & Spiritual Care for the Dying and Bereaved”

12:00pm    Lunch at Dogwood for All Attendees and Their Guests

1:00pm      NCCA Business Session and Election of New Officers

1:30pm      Session C: “One Breath at a Time: A Chaplain’s Guide to Meditation”

2:45pm      Q & A with the Author

3:15pm      Closing Remarks

Dogwood Conference Center on Lake Norman

A Glimpse at our Day…

Session 1:  Sabbath for the Chaplain: Refilling the Well in Order to Hold Space

Chaplaincy can be exhausting.  How does the professional chaplain sustain their professional expertise and energy amid growing needs?  This session will provide practical wisdom on how a regular practice of sabbath rest, worship, and community has the power to refill and shape us—and sustain our ongoing professional care for others.  We will dive into a brief history of spirituality as well as examine the practical when, why, and how of achieving balance and renewal amid a 24-7 society.

Session 2:  Dessert First: Practices and Spiritual Care for the Dying and Bereaved

What do the dying and bereaved really need?  This workshop will focus on equipping chaplains for end-of-life care and grief support for patients and families.  It will provide an explanatory didactic on needs as well as practical tools for serving faithfully amid what many scholars deem the upcoming “Silver Tsunami” of aging Americans entering the final state of life.

Session 3: One Breath at a Time: A Chaplain’s Guide to Meditation

As professionals dedicated to serving with understanding, love, and empathy, we need reminders of what roots and nourishes us in the why of our service.  In this session we will enjoy refreshing reminders about our own contemplative spiritual practices and why they are essential to sustaining and shaping our continued care for patients and families.

Meet Dana…

Photo credit: @imageisfound

Dana Trent is a graduate of Duke Divinity School and professor of World Religions and Critical Thinking at Wake Tech Community College. An ordained Baptist minister and former hospital chaplain (University of North Carolina Hospital, Chapel Hill), her work has appeared on Time.com, and in Religion News Service, Sojourners, Religion Dispatches, and The Christian Century. Publishers Weekly calls her fourth book, Dessert First: Preparing for Death While Savoring Life “poignant,” “hilarious,” “practical.” She is also the award-winning author of One Breath At a Time: A Skeptic’s Guide to Christian Meditation, For Sabbath’s Sake: Embracing Your Need for Rest, Worship, and Community and Saffron Cross: The Unlikely Story of How a Christian Minister Married a Hindu Monk. Dana winds down from writing and teaching with episodes of “The Young and the Restless” as well as leading group fitness training classes for the YMCA.

About Dessert First…

What if we embraced death as a sweet part of life, rather than a dreaded landmark? How would that shape the way we think about death, dying and grief … and how we live, now?    

In the year she served as a chaplain in a hospital “death ward,” J. Dana Trent accompanied more than 200 people — and their families — on their passage from life to death. Using personal narratives, Dessert First: Preparing for Death While Savoring Life captures life lessons on death and grief learned at the bedsides of the dying, including Dana’s own mother. Dessert First illuminates the end-of-life complexities: why we avoid talking about and planning for it, and how we might instead prepare for a “good death.” 

Dessert First is a deeply personal, touching, and sometimes even humorous look at death and dying, including the ways we cope when facing the inevitable end of life. Vignettes examine meaning, while practical resources help the reader begin with the end in mind. Final chapters include religious, spiritual, and legal resources.

This book is a companion on a journey of considering death—our own and our loved ones’—as a sweet spiritual part of life, rather than a dreaded destination. Discover tools for creating meaning-making at the end of life and in grief—for yourself and for those whom you love.

Hear what those who have read the book are saying…

“In this disarmingly forthright and often funny book, Dana Trent reminds her readers that we’re all terminal, and we’ll all ride the grief train sooner or later—so why not start the conversation now?  Her ability to convey what she has learned as a hospital chaplain, a daughter, and a teacher grounds every page in the real world, making it impossible to resist her invitation to begin thinking about The End in a life-giving way. –Barbara Brown Taylor, Author of An Altar in the World

“If grief is the language of love, this unflinching book shows us how to love a little deeper.” –Kate Bowler, New York Times Best-Selling Author of Everything Happens for a Reason (And Other Lies I’ve Loved)

“Dessert First really helped me.  It helped me prepare for the deaths of people I love.  It helped me prepare for my own death.  Don’t worry: it isn’t a book written by Miss Morbidity.  J. Dana Trent is funny and professional and human, exactly the kind of person you want to help you face life’s one actual certainty.”  –Brian D. McLaren, Author/ Activist

“Dessert First is a delicious treat—nourishing and enjoyable.  A timely reminder not to neglect the things that matter most.  Practical, truthful, needed.” –Philip Gulley, Quaker Author of If the Church Were Christian

“There is great freedom in accepting the reality of death.  There is even joy.  And possibly—a great deal of humor.  It is all here in “Dessert First,” a book about death that adds up to the fullness of life implied by the title.  Dig in.”     Erin Wathen, Author of Resist and Persist: Faith and the Fight for Equality and Patheos Blog ‘Irreverin’

Go to jdanatrent.com to access free resources or to learn more about Dana’s published works and blog.

Chaplains enjoying Lake Norman at a Previous Event

The Details

  • Registration is open through Friday, April 3, 2020.
  • We have Member, Non-Member, and Student Rates.
  • We welcome commuters and overnight guests.
  • Overnight guests receive lodging and dinner on Wednesday, April 29, 2020; breakfast, lunch, the day of education, and a copy of Dessert First. There are opportunities for fellowship, finding folks for peer review or certification circles, or further education after dinner on Wednesday.  Please indicate your choices in registration.
  • Commuters receive the day of education, lunch, and a copy of Dessert First. If commuters wish to participate in the exchange, peer review or certification circles, or fellowship on Wednesday, they are encouraged to indicate their choices in registration.
  • Overnight guests need to know the name of their roommate at the time of registration in order to get the shared room rate (that rate is per person).
  • Overnight guests provide their own toiletries and personal items.
  • Attendees may elect to bring their own guest. Because we are at a non-profit conference center, we are charged per person per room rather than per room as in a motel.  Guests are expected to dine at the facility and are charged accordingly.
  • Late or cancelled registrations will incur a fee.
  • All payment must be received by April 10, 2020 to secure one’s seat. Registrants who have not paid by that time forfeit their place.

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NCCA Fall Meeting

October 2-3, 2019

Caraway Conference Center, Sophia, NC

The fall meeting began with a Board Certification Training by Hadley Kifner, APC/BCCI Area 6 Certification Chair.    Also happening was a fellowship that included refreshments, board and card games.  Some burned the midnight oil in an exciting card game; Some went to bed.

This well attended meeting began with a time of greeting, a devotional, and a welcoming activity.  It was an opportunity to get to know someone new. 

The seminar, Crisis Response Training:  Helping Clergy Respond More Effectively & Compassionately to Survivor-Victims of Trauma, was presented by Chaplain Glenn Davis, Director, First Responder Chaplaincy Program, FaithHealth, Wake Forest Baptist Health.  Continuing Education credits for 4.5 hours were presented for participation in this event.

Chaplain Glenn Davis leads the Fall Education Day

Session 1:  Overview of Trauma and Critical Incident Stress

First responder chaplains help people working in fire, EMS, and law enforcement agencies deal with a variety of health-related challenges.  They have a front row seat at what a life of poor self-care, neglect and stress can do to a person’s physical and mental health and overall quality of life for individuals and their families.  First responder chaplains respond to critical incidents, staff support, education/consultation to churches, workplaces and communities, and community engagement with multiple agencies, organizations, and faith communities.  Their stress can be psychosocial or intrapersonal and delayed or cumulative.  

Chaplain Davis presented the signs of stress for first responders, the dangers and systemic effects of chronic stress, and factors contributing to poor health and shorter lifespans.  These factors include inadequate support systems, negative public perceptions, media scrutiny and toxic work environment lacking in empathy are all strong contributors. 

A Critical Incident was defined as an incident perceived or believed to threaten or potentially threaten the safety of an individual which may induce psychological and/or physical responses or seriously impair life functioning and/or work performance.  These events are sudden, unexpected, disrupt one’s sense of control, makes ordinary means of coping inadequate, restrict normal functioning, the perception of a life-damaging threat, and may be physical and/or emotional loss.  Perception of the event is important.  

The trauma can be life-altering. New trauma can resurrect old trauma. Fundamental values can be negatively impacted.  Reactions can be immediate or delayed.   

Session 2:  Unique Features of Sudden/Traumatic Death (part 1)

Common reactions to trauma include physical, cognitive, emotional, behavioral, and spiritual reactions. 

Physical distress reactions are fatigue/exhaustion, nausea/indigestion, vomiting, muscle spasms, chest pain, hyperventilation, elevated BP, tachycardia/bradycardia, thirst, grinding of teeth, weakness, dizziness, psychogenic sweating, chills, fainting, headaches and visual difficulties.

Cognitive distress reactions are blaming, confusion, poor attention/concentration, poor abstract thinking, heightened or lowered alertness, difficulty identifying familiar objects or people, disorientation, nightmares, confusion, sensory distortion, guilt, preoccupation, and inability to understand consequence of behavior.

Emotional distress reactions are anxiety, guilt, grief, denial, mood swings, post-traumatic stress, phobias, fear, uncertainty, loss of emotional control, depression, apprehension, feeling overwhelmed, anger, irritability and agitation.

Behavioral distress reactions present as change in normal activities, change in speech patterns, withdrawal/family discord, excessive eating, hyper-startle reflex, emotional outbursts, antisocial acts, suspiciousness, crying spells, 1000-yard stare, hyper-vigilance, loss or increase of appetite, alcohol or other drug abuse, inability to rest, nonspecific bodily complaints, impulsiveness – risk taking, pacing, erratic movements, sexual dysfunction, compensatory sexuality, sleep disturbance.

Spiritual distress reactions are major changes in one’s assumptive world, perplexing questions about faith & life’s meaning, questioning or doubting God, anger at God or His “representative”, devoutness of faith where none previously existed, existential confusion, soul-searching, difficulty putting the event into context, hopelessness, and withdrawal from faith-based community.

Risks for caregivers and First Responders are rapid role shifts (role assumed one moment can change with one encounter, phone call, text, etc.).  Helping others requires proximity to their suffering.  Over-management of emotions can leave the First Responder numb.  Too little processing time can put them at risk.

Session 3:  Unique Features of Sudden/Traumatic Death (part 2)

Survivor reactions separate them from life.  They experience feeling lost and not knowing what to do, feeling suspended from life, inability to concentrate, indifference to immediate needs, disbelief that the deceased is really dead, feeling that life can never be worth living again, and difficulty managing other ongoing life needs.  The reaction can be more complicated by the suddenness of the death.

In a death notification the chaplain creates a lifelong memory.  It has an immense impact on how the bereaved remember their loss.  Survivors who report being treated compassionately experience less complicated grief.

Session 4:  Re-Victimization & Spiritual Dimension in Crisis Response

There are two fundamental considerations when trying to help:  (1) recognize the need to restore power and control; (2) the helper must prevent self and others from making the crisis worse by inflicting more wounds on those already hurting and vulnerable.  Potential sources of re-victimization are family, friends/colleagues at work, media, law enforcement, the notifier(s), hospital staff, insurance companies, funeral homes, and clergy and faith communities.  

The role of faith in crisis can be the source of strength and comfort, a supportive community, a source of meaning and purpose and provide an answer to eternal questions.   When a person’s faith provides answers to problems, then it is perceived as an asset to cope with the crisis.  Sometimes it is the key sustaining resource.  

When a person’s faith does not provide adequate answers, then it becomes part of the crisis.  The symptoms are feeling abandoned by God, finding it hard to pray, no spirit of thankfulness, hopelessness; joylessness, seeing no value in Scripture, social alienation, resentment that life is business as usual for others, sense of unfairness, life seems futile and symptoms are very pronounced in cases of violent crime.

What people in crisis need:  safety and security, ventilation and validation, prediction and preparation. 

What not to say:

I know how you feel; I understand.

He’s better off; He’s in a better place & happier now.

She led a good, full life.

At least you’re alive or you are lucky to be alive, etc.

God never gives us more than we can stand.

It’s God’s will.

God needed an angel.

He/she has….gone to sleep, passed, expired, left us, etc.

Don’t cry, everything is going to be ok.

You’re so strong; you’re such an inspiration!

Just think of the others you will be able to help!

You shouldn’t feel that way; you should be over it by now.

You must get on with your life.

Time heals all wounds.

You need to go on vacation, etc.

You just need to meet someone!

What to say to survivor-victims following death or major trauma

I’m sorry it happened.

I cannot know (or understand) what you’re feeling but I care.

This must be awful for you.

Will you let me help you? 

You are safe now.  (If this is true.)

How are you doing now?

It’s ok to cry.  (Timing is important; saying this prematurely can shutdown emotions.)

It’s normal to be angry.

You must have loved ______ so much.  (Mention the loved one’s name.)

Tell me about _______.  (This can be an opportunity to share history and invite trust; encourages story-telling.)

He/she meant so much to me.  (If you knew the deceased and have been personally impacted by the death.

It wasn’t your fault.  (If you know this to be true.)

Your reactions are normal; the event is abnormal.  

You are not going crazy. (Many survivors fear the loss of control.)

It’s ok to not have to talk.  (Be an advocate if others try to make survivors talk.)

It will never be the same, but you can get better.  (An affirmative response to survivor’s anxiety about the future.)

I’m willing to be with you through this.  (Intense fears of abandonment & exploitation are common with many survivors.)

I’m praying for you.  (Infuses hope and raises awareness of other spiritual resources)

“Let’s stay in contact.”  (When your physical presence is no longer needed, when other support has arrived.)

Chaplain David concluded his excellent seminar with the definition of wellness.  Wellness is a positive approach to life incorporating physical, mental, social, emotional, and spiritual aspects with the potential to improve quality of life and result in increased health, happiness, and productivity.”

The day concluded with an opportunity to remember those who have passed.  This Memorial Service was focused on helping us lay aside our losses and remember to be thankful for our gifts. 

The next North Carolina Chaplains’ Association Spring Education Day will be on April 30, 2020 at Camp Dogwood, Sherrills Ford, NC.  Dana Trent will present “End of Life Care as Professional Chaplains”.  Dana will reflect on how those in the professional practice of spiritual care provide meaning to the journey toward end of life to patients and families.  Each attendee will receive a copy of her recently released book, Desserts First:  Preparing for Death While Savoring Life.  

Overnight options for those wishing to participate in ‘The Exchange’ Small Group offerings and other fellowship opportunities will be available on the website:  www.ncchaplains.com.

Registration will be open in December 2019.  

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